Sunday, April 20, 2008


I have been a Christian for more than half of my life. I have gone to church for most of that time as well. For the past 8 years or so, I have not regularly attended any church. Does this make me a bad Christian? Does it make me a bad person? Bad wife? Bad mother? I don't think so and I will tell you why...

I believe in God, I believe in the Bible. I believe that Jesus died for me (and for you!). I pray, I read the Bible. I am teaching my daughter to pray and teaching about God. I have FAITH and I BELIEVE. I just do not feel the need to go to church.

This morning I was up early, Hannah was still sleeping. I had laundry in the wash and in the dryer. I was just enjoying some quiet time. I decided to see what news or other interesting shows might be on. Well there wasn't much let me tell you! But I did see Joel Osteen on so I put it on and opened a blank word document so I could take some notes if anything struck me. His message was on 'A Resurrected Life'. Basically living life with the mentality that life is too short to play a victim.

A few things that he said struck a chord with me and I will share with you what and why...

  • You Are Not Defined By Your Past; You Are Prepared By Your Past
This spoke to me particularly because I think we all have things in our past that we are not proud of. I know I do. I think that everything I have gone through (whether because of my own choices, or things out of my control) are things that were used to prepare me for my future. I think I have been judged by people for choices I made and things I did, but its not anyones place to judge me first off, secondly, I wouldn't trade my past. It has made me who I am today and I LIKE me! Do I want my daughter to make the same choices I made? No, but I do want her to know that even if she makes poor decisions, that she will not be defined by that past, but that it will help prepare her for what is in her future, no matter what that future might be.

  • It Didn't Happen TO You; It Happened FOR You
I think this one takes a bit to understand and even more to actually accept. It plays into getting rid of the 'victim mentality'. When you are a victim, everything that happens, bad or good, happens TO you. When you live life with the mentality that everything is a learning and growing experience, it happens FOR you! I am working on this one, its still hard, but I think its important.

I hope this helps some of you understand where I am coming from. I know we are all at different points in our faith and our relationships, but I think that no matter how long we have been friends or even if you don't know me at all, I wanted to share where I am in my life, maybe it will help you, maybe it won't and that is okay too.


  1. Thats a great point. Sometimes when I deal with my family I always feel like I am the bad guy. In a sense, I am. Absolutely. I am in their minds. The thing is, I accept that. Just because I am the bad guy in their minds doesn't mean I am or that I have to be in my mind! Perhaps God is needing me to remember those boundries and learn from the same mistakes. I have to remind myself of this. It is happening "for me."

  2. I love this blog, I agree 100% on everything you have stated!


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