Wednesday, January 18, 2012

How to be a BFF


I recently was given the chance to read this new book, How to be a Best Friend Forever by Dr. John Townsend. I grabbed at the chance to review this book because I know the importance of my own BFF's and I believe we should always be striving to grow and deepen our relationships. Dr. Townsend gives many examples from his own relationships and has great tips for not only strengthening your current relationships but growing relationships with 'friends' into 'best friends'.



I have been blessed with a great group of what I call 'core' friends. These are women I have known for years in some cases and in others only a few months. However, I know that if I need anything I can lean on any one of them and vice versa. A couple of the closest friends I have ever had are my oldest friends...the inner circle if you will. But they are no more important to me than the friends I have only known for 5 or 6 years or less. They have just experienced more of my life with me than the 'newer' friends have.

I met my BFF C when were seniors in high school. We met through the youth group at church. I was the new kid, had just moved back to Phoenix from Sacramento and we started going to this huge church. I was really outgoing, but I was shy at church. Fortunately for me there were some really great girls in the high school group who came right up to me and included me from the very first Sunday I attended. I am still friends with those girls almost 20 years later. C and I, it would seem to the outside world have nothing in common and would probably not be very good friends. But we actually have many things in common. We both love to read, scrapbook and do crafty things, watch movies, shop and cook together. One of my very favorite things about my relationship with C is that every week for the last at least 10 years, we get together for dinner and just hang out.

Since I got married and had a baby C usually comes to my house for our BFF night as they have come to be known. We will cook dinner together and then settle in and watch tv and talk and tell each other stories of our week and how our families are doing. It is the highlight of my week a lot of the time. I have come to rely on BFF night to help me keep my sanity when my daughter is driving me insane. I count on my time with C and knowing that no matter what else is going on in life, my relationship with C is a constant.

So, every Tuesday night you can find me laughin' it up and remembering the good times we have had and making lots of new memories together. Like the time we took a road trip from Phoenix to Dallas with 2 of our other friends to visit another friend who was in med school in Dallas. That was an interesting trip to say the least. Or the time it took us 2 hours to make a salad. lol Or how C would spend time with me when I was a caregiver to my dying MIL and GMA who was bipolar. C has seen me at my very worst and yet, she still loves me and makes time in her busy week to come spend her Tuesday nights with me and now my family too.

My hope is that all of you have your own 'C' in your life and that you take the time to make sure each of you are celebrating your friendships because they are some of the most important relationships we will ever have. ♥

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