Monday, September 29, 2014

Quieting my Inner Bully

We all have an inner bully.  You know what im talking about, that inner voice that tells you:

You're ugly
You're fat
Why would that hot guy look at you
You aren't smart enough for that job you want
What makes you think you are worth that popular girls time
Why would anyone want to be friends with you
No one really likes you they just pity you

And so much more...



All of us might not admit that we have an inner bully...that we allow ourselves to be mentally abused and we think that it's ok because it's not someone else talking to us that way so we let it continue.

How many times a day do you find yourself saying things like this in your head? Would you let another person talk down to you the way you talk down to yourself?   Why do you think its ok to treat yourself this way if its not ok for another person to treat you this way? How do you get the bully to stop?



I've been thinking about this subject for a while and trying really hard to reverse my thoughts about myself.  I know that I wouldn't ever tolerate someone else bullying me or abusing me so I'm working on not tolerating it from me, either.  When I start to have one of these negative thoughts about myself I stop and immediately replace that negative thought with a positive thought.  It is getting easier but I do find myself getting frustrated easily...when I have a negative thought instead of going straight into a positive thought, sometimes I find myself saying 'wtf self ' and then I stop and reset again and give myself a positive thought to focus on.  Sometimes that's all it takes is a mental reset - sometimes these negative thoughts and emotions are so ingrained that we don't even realize how often they happen. 

If you find yourself in a similar situation, let me be the first to tell you that you are beautiful.  You are worthy of love and respect.  







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